10 Tips for Approaching Single Women

Most guys get caught up in guessing what to say; here's what they really should do

What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to? Do you run and hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? Do you stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say? What is the right thing to do?

When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they deliver it, they hope the woman will become instantly attracted to them.

Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work -- because most of what you say is irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the confidence you display when approaching her.

Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:

1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here.

Make your comment immediate to the situation

Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.

2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.

3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.

4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.

5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.

6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.

7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.

8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.

9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like "

I hope you saved some turkey for me

I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.

10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.

The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will be surprised at their power.

Dating Tips: 9 Signs a Guy Is a Keeper (GUY! THIS IS YOUR KEY TO BE "SUCCESS")

Think you've found The One? We asked relationship experts to help singles spot the clues that indicate serious boyfriend (and beyond) potential. Here's what to look for when separating the princes from the toads. By dating editor Ruby Madren-Britton for Glamour Photo: iStockphoto.com/© Sean Locke Updated: Sep 24, 2009

#1. Keeper clue: He has his act together

This seems like a no-brainer, but it's a good place to start. "It's very important that you two be able to have a lot of fun together, so a party boy or a screw-up will probably not work out for you," says Mira Kirshenbaum, a family and couples therapist and author of Is He Mr. Right? "No matter how charming he is, if he is still struggling to grow up, it will get very old, very fast."

More Glamour:

• Five Secrets All Guys Keep From You
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#2. Keeper clue: He puts you first.

Picture a delicious platter of grilled steak. Does your man offer it to you first to pick the best piece? He does if he's a keeper! "When it comes to taking the best piece of meat or offering it to you, that's a metaphor for how he'd always put you first the rest of your life," says Rachel Greenwald, author of "Why He Didn't Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought of You After Your Date."

#3. Keeper clue: He's not afraid of your germs.

You know a guy is really into you when he can't stay away, even when you're bedridden and snotty. "When you're sick with the flu, he says, 'Let me come over and take care of you,' rather than, 'Oooh, you sound really contagious... call me when you're feeling better,'" Greenwald says.

#4. Keeper clue: He's a family man.

He asks about your family, and he seems to genuinely want to hear about them. "Interest in your family shows that he thinks about you as a whole person, and he knows that being with you means understanding and accepting your relatives too," says Sarah Harrison, senior editor of yourtango.com.

#5. Keeper clue: He makes time for your friends.

In the beginning of your relationship, does your man show an interest in meeting your besties? And does he follow it up with a plan, like hosting a low-key dinner party? "Friends are an important part of your life, and his knowing them makes him more involved with you." Harrison says. "Plus, he'll have to deal with them at some point, so initiating it himself shows maturity."

#6. Keeper clue: He's your biggest cheerleader.

And she even has a poem:

When your guy calls your mom to tell her about your promotion before you do, that should tell you something. A man who is supportive of you and your goals is typically a guy who doesn't "feel threatened by your success," says Kirshenbaum. "He knows who he is and where he's going," which means he can ultimately be there for you.

#7. Keeper clue: He remembers the little things.

Does your man really listen to you? You'll know he's a keeper if you tell him you have a big scary work meeting and the next time you talk, he asks how it went. Or if you tell him you left your sunglasses at his house and he remembers them on your next date. "Following up on things you say to him means he pays attention to you -- always a good sign," Harrison says.

#8. Keeper clue: He's happy when you're happy.

This is the guy who "goes to a chick flick with you on Friday night rather than an action film -- not because he actually wants to, but because it makes you happy," says Greenwald.

#9. Keeper clue: He makes you the best you can be.

A guy who makes you feel like the luckiest woman alive -- like you can (and should!) be your confident, fabulous self -- is worth hanging on to. "It's not just about how you feel about him but more about how he makes you feel about yourself," Kirshenbaum says.

A Dream A Teaching A Realization

After few hours of preparing my final presentation, i slept in 4am ++.

Wow, it's really enjoy my work very much nowadays. Is this consider workaholic syndrome? Who's know. Searching over the net to get info and learn new things is really fun. Somehow, it is really tiring. Thinking of having my own workspace, so i can work day till night and having drink under the sky on a comfortable sofa, that's call bachelor life's style. Enjoying the stress and tension~

Without frus or nervous, back to my bed as usual. The time our friend bersahur, i slept.

I reach a place where i was wondering why people chasing at me, throwing weapon and Molotov cocktail at me, i felt no pain at all(of course la, dreaming ma). Then I hide inside a lovely mansion, but people use tank to make the mansion demolish. That time i realize I'm immortal which is invulnerable to harm. What was in my mind that time is i wanted to back to the time when the mansion is still as usual before this incident. Yes, i did it. I made my self back to the time. Yet, the same incident that people chasing at me, throwing weapon and Molotov cocktail at me. then i hide inside the mansion again. WAIT! isn't this just happened? I able back to the time but i unable change the incident nor stop it. I kept trap inside the circle for few time until i realize something. LET YOUR HEART BE PEACE, NOT STRUGGLING FOR SOMETHING MAKE YOU GREED FOR MATERIALISTIC, LET EVERYTHING GO AND LET EVERYTHING COME.

Finally, i able to stop it by not back to the time and continue my life as a mutant in that world. That world was in ruin and chaos, people like maniac, killing, and destroying whatever they saw. They are tired of me because they keep trying to kill me until they tired and run away, but wonder why i never do the same thing to them since i'm a immortal i can do whatever i want but didn't. I walk by a pirated CD shop. wow, amazingly, there are a lof of XXX cd on the table but no body was there. I think, in the internet have a lot of "same" type movie which we also unable to finish watching, what for buy this kind of movie again? Curiously, i steal a piece of the XXX movie and put inside my bag, but i wonder why? HAMSAP? haha. SEE, SOMETIME IN LIFE WE DO A LOT OF UNNECESSARY STUFF, BUT THOSE UNNECESSARY STUFF BRING US LITTLE FUN AND MEANING IN LIFE. WE MIGHT REGRET FOR WHAT WE DONE, BUT WE WILL NEVER REGRET THE HAPPINESS WE OBTAIN.

When i woke up, i realize i have 6 miss call from my teammate for presenting. I lost 10% mark for it, I done a lot 2/3 of the total work but i unable to finish it to present. For most people might regret it, but i felt happy because my work able to help my friend to present. Maybe due to how we think, if i still thinking that i regret. I will TRAP in the thinking of how people view me, assault me, but I'm ok with it. WE HAVE A LONG ROUTE TO CONTINUE, THE RESULT CAN'T PROOF EVERYTHING, WHAT YOU HAVE WITHIN MAY BRING YOU TO THE ROUTE YOU DREAM OF......

New Zealand man's love runs deep in search for ring by reuters

WELLINGTON (Reuters) – A New Zealand man has been dubbed the Lord of the Ring after he searched and found his wedding ring more than a year after it slipped off his finger and sank to the sea floor.

The ring was lost for 16 months in the harbor of the country's capital city, Wellington, before Aleki Taumoepeau found it shining on the sea floor, the DominionPost newspaper reported on Thursday.

"The whole top surface of the ring was glowing," Taumoepeau, an ecologist, said.

Taumoepeau had been married for just three months when he lost the wedding ring while conducting an environmental sweep of the harbor.

He roughly marked the spot where the ring had flown from his finger, but was unable to find it despite returning to the area many times.

Taumoepeau's wife offered to buy another ring, but he refused, pledging to find the ring.

But, equipped with new global satellite based coordinates and offering up a quick prayer, he found the ring after an hour's search.

"I couldn't believe that I could see the ring so perfectly," Taumoepeau said.

He said those with him on the boat at the time the ring flew off his finger had likened it to a similar, slow motion shot from The Lord of the Rings, much of which was filmed in Wellington by local director Peter Jackson.

Very Bad Month......sob sob

August......why? Why a lot of things happen around of me? sob sob......

1st August - Actually plan to go survival camp at Taman Negara, Johor. Cancel at last minutes due to workloads and mid-term

3rd August- After back from work, my mother told me that my cousin seriously injured due to a terrible accident, 1 bottom half totally permanent disable, sob sob another just walking got problem.....T.T

4th August- Fever, then my mother also not well, haiz

15th August- My car front bumper being bang by a stupid driver, because he reverse the car without noticing the car behind....then when i reach home, i suppose to go pool center and play with my friend but i fall in sleep...then i being scold kaw kaw

16th August- I unintentionally flying pigeon my friend that we should go yong peng for meeting because of me, i was taking too long time to repair the pipe in my house, the plan totally burn, i very sorry but they really angry

20th August - I being summons due to expired roadtax

well, if i think that i'm the most unlucky guy in the world, what happen for those people suffering due to deceases, terrorism and famine etc....haha, well i will take those as lesson because i know we live we learn, even though i'm stand alone, but is ok

I'm ADDICTED to a drug!

Few months back, i was hired by a "company" as the artist to write the pieces of paper into the way we order to in our own way, drawn a meaningful masterpiece in those papers. As an artist, the way we perform is different to each other some are very nice while some are terribly ugly. Each year since 2007, i have serve this "company" for 2 weeks only during May or June. My principal is very easy, don't take the paper away, never take opportunity towards the paper since they just newly drawn neither nice or not, write down the information as they wanted and draw a map to them, so they will have a nice day.

I was team up in 1 of the 4 team, our boss selected us according our back ground and experience. Yes, we manage to get through our hard time and enjoy drawing the paper beautifully and excellence. At the end we manage to beat the rest and enjoy our victorious moment, we felt proud and ego at that time. Wow, i couldn't forget that, hehe. During that time, i promise myself to perform the best and help the rest who needed as i found out most of the paper still have space and blank. I WILL DRAW AND WRITE IT NICELY i told myself.

Coincidentally, there is a piece of paper flew across me, and i realize the paper still look so pure and white even though being drawn and write. I also realize the paper had scars in the memories. Therefore, I decided to help out and guide it to the proper way. Sadly, i'm not a genius and perfect, but i still i take the challenge and i gamble 50%-50% because it worth of friendship. I always believe my instincts and it prove me right most of the time. Until....

Time, maybe i took too long to solve the puzzle, but I never realize. I'm very happy for each time i able to help it out. I volunteer....but I a human who independent for too long, since 2001 as my sibling and parent busy with their work at the same time i grown.

Somehow, i think I've broken my own principle in this few days. Maybe i never realize before, maybe i just too focus towards my part-time work, maybe I too self fish...until these few days the story began. For me, the paper just like turn into drug when i didn't realize. I addicted to its and i wanted more, but my ego-ness remind me that every movement has it own consequences and i might lost everything(I VERY KIA SU). I can't do anything, i can't make any right decision other than hiding and evading. the thing i can do is wish that the paper able get what its wanted.

I wish I only a factory robot, so that anything i did it wrong got technician come and repair......i wish......wow, Richard always the strongest!!!! but he finally falls, sob sob & haha.....a new begin

Reborn~

My Tarot Reading-so reliable

The Knight of Pentacles card suggests that my power today lies in practicality. I plan ahead and consider my options to set priorities or define goals that serve my long-term purpose. My values lay in the potential that often remains unseen by others. I am cautious, steady, optimistic and reliable and have earned the new trust or position that empowers me. My asset is accepting responsibility.

Believe it or not, today i have a serious postmortem to myself, i apologize to all of them that i have made them up set because i broke my promises.

Anna, she is a friend of mine who already married and have 2 sons, i know her in a event call Splendors of Chinese Opera , she is a very caring person, she bake a lot of bread, bun and confectionery for us to enjoy, especially her Swiss's bread as her husband is from Swiss.

well, i wrote this in saturday night>

suddenly, felt regreted, for easily promise people, make me so stress for unable to complete the stuff and make my day so uneasy, sob sob

anna reply> Always remember to draw the line, the boundary, your limitation. The good thing is, that is your nature character, you are kind and helpful. Another good thing is now you know how to put yourself priority next time. Complete it and be happy that you have learn something out of this experience...remember, NEVER break your promises...even for small thing...

this is an enlightening for me to start everything you know, so i won't be so stressful and broke promises again

sorry and thank you everyone, hehe

Emotionally down

Family objection, argument and opposite opinion is my biggest obstacle to move forward. In additional, my cousin who grow with me who study with in the same school faced a serious accident. I felt, i'm useless i can't help my cousin in financial support for the medical fee. To my family i felt my existance is meaningless but they need me even though they always disagree whatever i do, i felt i'm a tool only, haiz. No wonder all sibling rather stay outside one by one la. But that all was happened last week and this week. Luckily i still have friend, they all like my savior even though they can't help much. For me, it sound like a very bad week instead of bad day. I told myself before, that i'm stronger than anyone else, i'll keep smilling no matter what happen. What i behave for this few week is totally negetive and i hope this will not happen again, so RICHARD aka RICH & HARD will survive no matter what condition, YEAH!

Everyone is Number 1

每当我听到掌声响起来的时候
我知道我又向前走了一步
但是我也曾经站不起来……

作曲:陈德建
作词:刘德华李安修
导演:霍兆基

我的路不是你的路
我的苦不是你的苦
每个人都有潜在的能力
把一切去征服
我的泪不是你的泪
我的痛不是你的痛
一样的天空不同的光荣
有一样的感动
不需要自怨自艾的惶恐
只需要沉着只要向前冲
告诉自己:天生我才必有用

everyone is no.1
只要你凡事不问能不能
用一口气交换你一生
要迎接未来不必等
everyone is no.1
成功的秘诀在你肯不肯
流最热的汗用最真的心
第一名属于每个人

挫折,真的是人生的一部分吗?
跌倒,又真的是成长必须要走的路吗?

以前,我和他们一样
现在,我和你一样

意外,就是在人们
和你自己都意想不到下才会发生的

所以,请不要怪别人
更不要怪自己

我的路不是你的路
我的苦不是你的苦
每个人都有潜在的能力
把一切去征服
我的泪不是你的泪
我的痛不是你的痛
一样的天空不同的光荣
有一样的感动
不需要自怨自艾的惶恐
只需要沉着只要向前冲
告诉自己:天生我才必有用

everyone is no.1
只要你凡事不问能不能
用一口气交换你一生
要迎接未来不必等
everyone is no.1
成功的秘诀在你肯不肯
流最热的汗用最真的心
第一名属于每个人

我的手不是你的手
我的口不是你的口
只要一条心
狂风和暴雨
都变成好朋友
不需要自怨自艾的惶恐
只需要沉着只要向前冲
告诉自己:天生我才必有用
everyone is no.1
只要你凡事不问能不能
用一口气交换你一生
要迎接未来不必等
everyone is no.1
成功的秘诀在你肯不肯
流最热的汗用最真的心
第一名属于每个人

不害怕路上有多冷
直到还有一点余温
我也会--努力狂奔!
everyone is no.1
只要你凡事不问能不能
用一口气交换你一生
要迎接未来不必等
everyone is no.1
成功的秘诀在你肯不肯
流最热的汗用最真的心
第一名属于每个人

以前我和他们一样
现在你要和我一样

everyone is no.1
只要你凡事不问能不能
用一口气交换你一生
要迎接未来不必等
everyone is no.1
成功的秘诀在你肯不肯
流最热的汗用最真的心
第一名属于每个人

Behind the Scene of Week 7

Endurance, Tiredness, Laziness, Frustration, Disappointed, Unplanned schedule lifestyle mess up and Work-Study stress disturbance all happen within a week. Again, again and again i mess up my life, i should learn to use Pareto chart to list out the importance things to do, haha....Therefore, my result of the mid-term and assignment might not so good what a swt. Now i know the important of study group, we encourage each other, and help each other even though not form the same course and subject. somehow, organize a study group is a very subjective matter, some prefer study alone in their own room while other prefer have larger space and etc.
Is working time......this was the sentence came out from my mouth on saturday evening when i reach Renaisance Hotel. That that is birthday celebration, we preparing chinese-western-Malay food, of course i just helping the chef only, not a big deal. The big deal is there are a group of student from stamford college, they look so young and kind of noob in term speaking and morale in a hotel. well, there are few leng lui of course, haha....that's the point i meant, haha. I felt like a leng lui radar. Even though i not a perfect guy and not as handsome as andy lau, but i only look for mature thinking and looking girl for my life; i'm not that kind of desperate also. Arranging, clean plate, deco, kitchen runner and quality testing(haha) is all the job i doing all the night, I felt very full but thirsty, that's why i straight go buy coke at 7 eleven once i back from work and finish it. I'm not kind of desperate for money, i desperate of experience of working. That's why i one men work for several job for few company as part-timer. I felt so good even though some work is mentally tired and physical tired. I proud of it. Hahaha, " NEVER SAY NO"

Restless....

Is 4a.m. in the morning, my body and soul felt restless as i have a lot of stuff haven't settle, tired but no choice......sometime felt very stupid, in chinese 自己找来的 means look for self trouble. However, this are the thing that pass my time because i felt that sometime what i want i will never get it, this call greedy but i still work hard for it. I felt i well prepare with 1.1.1.5.5. , this are the number that help me successful. i think that for now la, ery tired already, later 8.30a.m. having meeting, i believe i'm unbeatable i will try till the end....peace

K.A.S.H. of Life

Richard is complaining this and that, but sometimes I'm lost within the complain and pressure. Did you notice that every time you complain something, the problem maybe is from you, yes myself, am i right? hmm...doubtful...... this can evaluate through THE K.A.S.H of Life, may you will ask me....."hmm, your grammar got problem la Richard, memper-sia-sui-kan your english teacher and father who teach you english". Haha, i won't blame you because you are don't know that i share something important with you now, hehe.

1) K = Knowledge, the knowledge towards the problem such as law, your understanding towards a person, enviroment, needs, and etc. If you are knowledgeable person, you won't argue so much with a person, just tolerate and pity them for having low EQ and not understanding. We not going to argue with meaningless conversation, we' are peace and loving people. If they argue with you, we listen 1st, then we find a solution to help them instead of let them to argue for 3 or 4 hours for nothing. Try to help people instead of helping your self get out of the situation, and knowledge also must apply on this matter, don't mix up between being used and volunteered, ok?

2) A = Attitude, the attitude is about your thought and action towards a problem. "ARE YOU READY TO DO?......YES!!!!" be optimism is the key to your every difficulty and hard time. Why i say so? Ask you self 1st......Do I have bad Attitude?(Yes/No)......Am going to change it?(Yes/No) if both answer is Yes, i congrats you, because you know yourself better than everybody else. if your 1st answer is No, i'm sorry to tell you that" you never know the men in the Mirror, because you never postmortem for whatever you did before" or maybe i wrong, YOU ARE A SAINT, haha....then if your 2nd answer is No, i can tell you that even a god also can help you, you're helpless since your self don't want help your self, how come other can help you, just like you ask a cow to climb a tree, you know what cow won't do that because cow never climb tree before.

3) S = Skill, why i say skill is a part of life? a part for solving problem? then I ask you, eating need skill or not? you can eat and feed yourself? even the disable can eat just using mouth to feed themself, if you cannot means that you worst than a disable. Did you know that skill to focus on Demand and Needs is important? then if you talk to a person you never met before, you need to talk to them to help you to change the flat tyre in example where your car is park a mile away from where you are now. How you start the conversation? start with "halo or Wei or Handsome or can you change the tyre for me? directly". Most of the time, people have a lot of skill but never polish their skill like me. You ask to do a Engineering Math now, i can tell you i forgot the formula already, this why i wasted RM1024.50 for this subject plus the note and time i wasted for nothing. Maybe you know something or you heard before, in madarin call 听过， 听了就让他过去 mean hear before and let it pass, mean you wasted a knowledge or skill. So Polishing also a skill of how you maintain you asset or knowledge.

4) H = Habit, good or bad habit will influence you in future, habit will mould into a better person or a junk of society. What i mean in good habit is, are you a disciplin person? Do you have self-management? Have you frequently have self-postmortem? Self-study to increase your knowledge or just continue watching the meaningless drama or TV show like smallville or hero even worst porno(you no need sex education everyday)? Let me share my big five <Respect, Hustle, Tolerant, Integrity and Loyalty>. Ask yourself that you wanna be a better person or a burden to your family, friend or society ? Well, let me remind you all who read my blog that Appreciate whatever you have now, and let build a better future and pay the contribution to the society and country!!!!

Dissappointed

Sometime feels like wanna give up and suicide because of the person who gave birth to me. I appreciate that you brought me to this world, but it means nothing to me at all since you never agree whatever i do, no matter what course i took, what car i drive, what career i venture in, even the part time i choose for myself and etc. I never cares other thinks about me, but the word "good job" is really means a lot from you to me. You totally opposite of my father, who support whatever i do in term of motivation and financial even though i never ask for it. Troubles, noises, screams and disagreement is the things from you. Felt very down every years, everyday when i met you in the place i stay. You make my life very hard, even go class also being scold. Somehow, i still do my part as a son but stuff and food to you, no matter how you treat me. However, i can't do my part forever as i have my dream to pursue. You never appreciate everyone who help you, you only think of money. Maybe you say we don't understand you, but who will serve you longer than i do if you never understand other at the 1st place......think

4, 5, 6 and GO! Thank You Eunice & Gabriel, my dear est Sister and brother in law

It's all began since last Thursday's night where i suppose overnight at my auntie house to prepare my MII examination, but i did not do so. I was attend The Multimedia Buddhist Society Dharma class as usual, because this society means a lot to my friend and me as we built this club together. Since i have recruited new committee to pass the job to them, i need to understand 1st their attitude towards the responsibilities given. For hours i had spent with them, i reached home around 1 something when is the time for me to continue study. Well, so far life is not just about study and work, socialize also important for us.
At 4.45a.m. I departed from my house to Maju Junction, Jalan Sultan Ismail, KL. I reach there around 6.15a.m. and have my Coffee Kaw at a mamak stall call Lotus. I desperately bought a dunhill and have 3 sticks in chain and study at the same time, haiya....very sleepy ma, smoking is not a good choice! well, when the MII centre open at 8.30a.m. i straight go there and check my name to comfirm the registration. Surprizely, i have 2 paper in the same day instead of only 1 paper, means i didn't study for another paper call investment-linked...haiz, so sui.....However, i manage to pass the 1st paper which is Pre-Examnination Contract. Then, my sister call me to meet her during lunch time as she want myself choose a watch as my 21st birthday, wow that's too early for my birthday, haha. Maybe because my preferance i choose a simple but elegance watch, while she ask me for more luxury-elegance with multifunction, but still simple, elegance is still suit me, and the price are cheap too. Meanwhile i can help her for not spending much, hehe, because of that i feel like i more punctual person now, thank you very much. Due to her bless, luckily, I manage to pass my investment which i only study for 2 hour, sorry ya bro chua, luck with me for this paper and i know you study for a longer time to pass this paper, maybe my efficiency offended you, haha. The worst part is, I very sleepy at that time while i driving, you know la driving while sleepy very dangeruous, luckily nothing happened, thank you....
In the Saturdaymorning i was sitting for my HR paper, i took whole midnight to study this paper i think i mange to get better mark, hope so la......then, i follow JLS for Bon Odori at Shah Alam around 5 p.m. while during the afternoon I spend my time in Time Square for lunch and chit chatting with my friend in a cafe till 4 p.m.. wow, what a good time. Emm, for those who never use post-paid before, you can not-paying the bill if you don't want to continue the plan means you cancel the plan as it is free one don't worry about that, hehe. Bon Odori is a great festival besides of the dusty air and unreasonable price for certain(mostly) food in the fair might not encourage us to come for the next bon odori, haiz.... During the way back, i found out that 1 of my friend boy friend is doing real estate and property stuff, I tell her that you're going to be a very rich lo, because price for the land never going to depreciate like building, car.....it also won't effected by inflation. Thanks to the real estate billionaire, donald trumph that make me feel inspire for those doing in this field. thanks to ah brad, for tought me a new thing in life.....make a topic for a positive answer which gonna boost my marketing skill....1 more important thing, i notice some girl really hot during Bon Odori, hehe...what a tired and memorable days

Self Esteem

About self-esteem

Self-esteem is a person’s sense of personal value or worth. It also involves how people define themselves, which in turn influences their motivations, attitudes and behaviors throughout life. Healthy self-esteem is important for emotional well-being, and it is helpful in realizing life goals. A healthy self-esteem involves the following elements: Trust. Confidence and faith in oneself as well as others. Self nurturing. An important component of self-esteem. Learning how to take care of others as well as oneself. Autonomy. Self-determination and independence. Identity. An individual’s sense of self. Intimacy. The ability to relate closely to others. If an individual is unable to develop these elements or loses sight of them, low self-esteem can result. Everyone experiences lagging self-esteem at certain times in their lives, especially during adolescence. How people feel about themselves can be related to various factors, including the environment, body image, personal and social expectations and experiences. Constant criticism can harm an individual’s self-esteem. For example, recent research shows that childhood verbal abuse has a negative impact on self-esteem that often continues into adulthood. It is important to note that such criticism does not necessarily have to come from others. Some people are plagued with chronic (ongoing) self-doubt, finding fault with everything they do and as a result, their self-esteem suffers. Messages from the media, which often promote excessive thinness as the ideal for women, can negatively affect a female’s self-esteem. The messages can lead girls and women to believe that something is wrong with their bodies. As a result, they may adopt strict diets to achieve this “ideal” figure and this can put them at risk for developing an eating disorder. Males can have body image insecurities as well. Though women may feel pressure to be thinner, males can feel pressured to be bigger and more muscular. Sports (e.g., football, wrestling), media messages and other men can pressure males to gain muscle mass. The inability to accomplish this can lead to feelings of unhappiness and dissatisfaction with their physical appearance. Low self-esteem can be damaging because it can affect a person’s body, mind and spirit. Sometimes it can be too much for an individual to bear. Instead of seeking help from peers or other sources of support (e.g., counseling), a person may turn to destructive behaviors including drinking alcohol or using illegal drugs (e.g., marijuana) to cope with low self-esteem, especially during social situations. Low self-esteem has been associated with a wide array of problems including low academic or career achievement, teenage pregnancy, violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, emotional health disorders (e.g., depression, anxiety disorders) and suicide Tips for boosting self-esteem Self-acceptance is crucial for developing a healthy self-esteem. People that believe in themselves and have a positive outlook in life are also more likely to have healthy self-esteem and generally, also tend be happier. Other ways people can boost their self-esteem include: Identifying their positive attributes Recognizing areas in which they excel Not measuring themselves using other people’s standards Taking risks in order to succeed Learning to set realistic goals Developing a support system of friends and relatives Focusing on accomplishments and not dwelling on failures

I finally understand better.....

Busy lifestyle maybe the factor that I'm still single.....
but is ok, because i not dare to hurt other as my combination of number
2+4=6
(2+4)+(1+1)+(1+9+8+8)=7
the combination number 6&7 shows that my romance life is a playboy
i not sure is true or not, but my friend had calculated that micheal jackson will pass away during his 50+, she shown me the calculation during this year february, is hard to believe but it proof
this kinf of calculation is the combination of your (day of birth)+(date of birth)+(name)+the last thing i forgot le......leslie chong and anita mui umber shown the their life till 40 +
well, i think this is just sharing for today.....i still have lots to share later on, but let me finish my Malaysia Insurance Institute(MII) paper 1st which cost me RM160++ per paper this friday yet finish study the paper, haiz and this saturday morning my human resource paper la, wish me luck as i needed a lot due to my weak body recently
thank you and have a nice day :)

5 Ways to Get a Grip on Your Mental Health

By: Stacey Colino

Reviewed By: Steven A. King, M.D.

When anxiety or stress threatens to throw you off kilter, it’s time to come to your own emotional rescue.

Step 1: Accept that stress and anxiety are a natural part of life. If you give yourself permission to experience and accept uncomfortable feelings, you’ll be able to tolerate them better, explains Washington, D.C.-based psychotherapist Jerilyn Ross, M.A., president and CEO of the Anxiety Disorders Association of America and author of One Less Thing to Worry About: Uncommon Wisdom for Coping With Common Anxieties.

Step 2: Consider what’s really bothering you. When you begin to feel tense or anxious, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I really anxious about?” That’s when a journal can really come in handy. “To help you see patterns between your thoughts, your activities and your anxiety, it can help to write down what’s making you anxious in a diary,” Ross says.

Step 3: Seize control over what you can. Consider what actions you can take to ease your anxiety level. “If you constantly worry about being late to work, get up 15 minutes earlier so you’re not rushing so much in the morning,” Ross suggests. “Focus on what you can do, rather than on what you can’t do.”

Step 4: Change your negative thoughts. If you catch yourself thinking, “I can’t meet this deadline,” Ross recommends removing the “T” and restating the thought more positively: “I can meet this deadline. I just need to organize my time.” This makes the task ahead of you seem possible and less daunting.

Step 5: Be present-minded. “Stay rooted in the here and now,” says Ross, “and focus on the information you have rather than on the ‘What-ifs?’ that often accompany anxiety.” If you have trouble stopping the “What-if” habit, pinch yourself and say “Stop!” or visualize a stop sign, then consciously turn your attention in a more constructive direction.

These strategies may not solve all your problems, but they can help you change the way you interact with anxiety, worry and stress—and they can be remarkably effective at helping to defuse these feelings.