Dating Tips: 9 Signs a Guy Is a Keeper (GUY! THIS IS YOUR KEY TO BE "SUCCESS")

Think you've found The One? We asked relationship experts to help singles spot the clues that indicate serious boyfriend (and beyond) potential. Here's what to look for when separating the princes from the toads. By dating editor Ruby Madren-Britton for Glamour Photo: iStockphoto.com/© Sean Locke Updated: Sep 24, 2009

#1. Keeper clue: He has his act together

This seems like a no-brainer, but it's a good place to start. "It's very important that you two be able to have a lot of fun together, so a party boy or a screw-up will probably not work out for you," says Mira Kirshenbaum, a family and couples therapist and author of Is He Mr. Right? "No matter how charming he is, if he is still struggling to grow up, it will get very old, very fast."

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#2. Keeper clue: He puts you first.

Picture a delicious platter of grilled steak. Does your man offer it to you first to pick the best piece? He does if he's a keeper! "When it comes to taking the best piece of meat or offering it to you, that's a metaphor for how he'd always put you first the rest of your life," says Rachel Greenwald, author of "Why He Didn't Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought of You After Your Date."

#3. Keeper clue: He's not afraid of your germs.

You know a guy is really into you when he can't stay away, even when you're bedridden and snotty. "When you're sick with the flu, he says, 'Let me come over and take care of you,' rather than, 'Oooh, you sound really contagious... call me when you're feeling better,'" Greenwald says.

#4. Keeper clue: He's a family man.

He asks about your family, and he seems to genuinely want to hear about them. "Interest in your family shows that he thinks about you as a whole person, and he knows that being with you means understanding and accepting your relatives too," says Sarah Harrison, senior editor of yourtango.com.

#5. Keeper clue: He makes time for your friends.

In the beginning of your relationship, does your man show an interest in meeting your besties? And does he follow it up with a plan, like hosting a low-key dinner party? "Friends are an important part of your life, and his knowing them makes him more involved with you." Harrison says. "Plus, he'll have to deal with them at some point, so initiating it himself shows maturity."

#6. Keeper clue: He's your biggest cheerleader.

And she even has a poem:

When your guy calls your mom to tell her about your promotion before you do, that should tell you something. A man who is supportive of you and your goals is typically a guy who doesn't "feel threatened by your success," says Kirshenbaum. "He knows who he is and where he's going," which means he can ultimately be there for you.

#7. Keeper clue: He remembers the little things.

Does your man really listen to you? You'll know he's a keeper if you tell him you have a big scary work meeting and the next time you talk, he asks how it went. Or if you tell him you left your sunglasses at his house and he remembers them on your next date. "Following up on things you say to him means he pays attention to you -- always a good sign," Harrison says.

#8. Keeper clue: He's happy when you're happy.

This is the guy who "goes to a chick flick with you on Friday night rather than an action film -- not because he actually wants to, but because it makes you happy," says Greenwald.

#9. Keeper clue: He makes you the best you can be.

A guy who makes you feel like the luckiest woman alive -- like you can (and should!) be your confident, fabulous self -- is worth hanging on to. "It's not just about how you feel about him but more about how he makes you feel about yourself," Kirshenbaum says.

A Dream A Teaching A Realization

After few hours of preparing my final presentation, i slept in 4am ++.

Wow, it's really enjoy my work very much nowadays. Is this consider workaholic syndrome? Who's know. Searching over the net to get info and learn new things is really fun. Somehow, it is really tiring. Thinking of having my own workspace, so i can work day till night and having drink under the sky on a comfortable sofa, that's call bachelor life's style. Enjoying the stress and tension~

Without frus or nervous, back to my bed as usual. The time our friend bersahur, i slept.

I reach a place where i was wondering why people chasing at me, throwing weapon and Molotov cocktail at me, i felt no pain at all(of course la, dreaming ma). Then I hide inside a lovely mansion, but people use tank to make the mansion demolish. That time i realize I'm immortal which is invulnerable to harm. What was in my mind that time is i wanted to back to the time when the mansion is still as usual before this incident. Yes, i did it. I made my self back to the time. Yet, the same incident that people chasing at me, throwing weapon and Molotov cocktail at me. then i hide inside the mansion again. WAIT! isn't this just happened? I able back to the time but i unable change the incident nor stop it. I kept trap inside the circle for few time until i realize something. LET YOUR HEART BE PEACE, NOT STRUGGLING FOR SOMETHING MAKE YOU GREED FOR MATERIALISTIC, LET EVERYTHING GO AND LET EVERYTHING COME.

Finally, i able to stop it by not back to the time and continue my life as a mutant in that world. That world was in ruin and chaos, people like maniac, killing, and destroying whatever they saw. They are tired of me because they keep trying to kill me until they tired and run away, but wonder why i never do the same thing to them since i'm a immortal i can do whatever i want but didn't. I walk by a pirated CD shop. wow, amazingly, there are a lof of XXX cd on the table but no body was there. I think, in the internet have a lot of "same" type movie which we also unable to finish watching, what for buy this kind of movie again? Curiously, i steal a piece of the XXX movie and put inside my bag, but i wonder why? HAMSAP? haha. SEE, SOMETIME IN LIFE WE DO A LOT OF UNNECESSARY STUFF, BUT THOSE UNNECESSARY STUFF BRING US LITTLE FUN AND MEANING IN LIFE. WE MIGHT REGRET FOR WHAT WE DONE, BUT WE WILL NEVER REGRET THE HAPPINESS WE OBTAIN.

When i woke up, i realize i have 6 miss call from my teammate for presenting. I lost 10% mark for it, I done a lot 2/3 of the total work but i unable to finish it to present. For most people might regret it, but i felt happy because my work able to help my friend to present. Maybe due to how we think, if i still thinking that i regret. I will TRAP in the thinking of how people view me, assault me, but I'm ok with it. WE HAVE A LONG ROUTE TO CONTINUE, THE RESULT CAN'T PROOF EVERYTHING, WHAT YOU HAVE WITHIN MAY BRING YOU TO THE ROUTE YOU DREAM OF......

New Zealand man's love runs deep in search for ring by reuters

WELLINGTON (Reuters) – A New Zealand man has been dubbed the Lord of the Ring after he searched and found his wedding ring more than a year after it slipped off his finger and sank to the sea floor.

The ring was lost for 16 months in the harbor of the country's capital city, Wellington, before Aleki Taumoepeau found it shining on the sea floor, the DominionPost newspaper reported on Thursday.

"The whole top surface of the ring was glowing," Taumoepeau, an ecologist, said.

Taumoepeau had been married for just three months when he lost the wedding ring while conducting an environmental sweep of the harbor.

He roughly marked the spot where the ring had flown from his finger, but was unable to find it despite returning to the area many times.

Taumoepeau's wife offered to buy another ring, but he refused, pledging to find the ring.

But, equipped with new global satellite based coordinates and offering up a quick prayer, he found the ring after an hour's search.

"I couldn't believe that I could see the ring so perfectly," Taumoepeau said.

He said those with him on the boat at the time the ring flew off his finger had likened it to a similar, slow motion shot from The Lord of the Rings, much of which was filmed in Wellington by local director Peter Jackson.

Very Bad Month......sob sob

August......why? Why a lot of things happen around of me? sob sob......

1st August - Actually plan to go survival camp at Taman Negara, Johor. Cancel at last minutes due to workloads and mid-term

3rd August- After back from work, my mother told me that my cousin seriously injured due to a terrible accident, 1 bottom half totally permanent disable, sob sob another just walking got problem.....T.T

4th August- Fever, then my mother also not well, haiz

15th August- My car front bumper being bang by a stupid driver, because he reverse the car without noticing the car behind....then when i reach home, i suppose to go pool center and play with my friend but i fall in sleep...then i being scold kaw kaw

16th August- I unintentionally flying pigeon my friend that we should go yong peng for meeting because of me, i was taking too long time to repair the pipe in my house, the plan totally burn, i very sorry but they really angry

20th August - I being summons due to expired roadtax

well, if i think that i'm the most unlucky guy in the world, what happen for those people suffering due to deceases, terrorism and famine etc....haha, well i will take those as lesson because i know we live we learn, even though i'm stand alone, but is ok

I'm ADDICTED to a drug!

Few months back, i was hired by a "company" as the artist to write the pieces of paper into the way we order to in our own way, drawn a meaningful masterpiece in those papers. As an artist, the way we perform is different to each other some are very nice while some are terribly ugly. Each year since 2007, i have serve this "company" for 2 weeks only during May or June. My principal is very easy, don't take the paper away, never take opportunity towards the paper since they just newly drawn neither nice or not, write down the information as they wanted and draw a map to them, so they will have a nice day.

I was team up in 1 of the 4 team, our boss selected us according our back ground and experience. Yes, we manage to get through our hard time and enjoy drawing the paper beautifully and excellence. At the end we manage to beat the rest and enjoy our victorious moment, we felt proud and ego at that time. Wow, i couldn't forget that, hehe. During that time, i promise myself to perform the best and help the rest who needed as i found out most of the paper still have space and blank. I WILL DRAW AND WRITE IT NICELY i told myself.

Coincidentally, there is a piece of paper flew across me, and i realize the paper still look so pure and white even though being drawn and write. I also realize the paper had scars in the memories. Therefore, I decided to help out and guide it to the proper way. Sadly, i'm not a genius and perfect, but i still i take the challenge and i gamble 50%-50% because it worth of friendship. I always believe my instincts and it prove me right most of the time. Until....

Time, maybe i took too long to solve the puzzle, but I never realize. I'm very happy for each time i able to help it out. I volunteer....but I a human who independent for too long, since 2001 as my sibling and parent busy with their work at the same time i grown.

Somehow, i think I've broken my own principle in this few days. Maybe i never realize before, maybe i just too focus towards my part-time work, maybe I too self fish...until these few days the story began. For me, the paper just like turn into drug when i didn't realize. I addicted to its and i wanted more, but my ego-ness remind me that every movement has it own consequences and i might lost everything(I VERY KIA SU). I can't do anything, i can't make any right decision other than hiding and evading. the thing i can do is wish that the paper able get what its wanted.

I wish I only a factory robot, so that anything i did it wrong got technician come and repair......i wish......wow, Richard always the strongest!!!! but he finally falls, sob sob & haha.....a new begin

Reborn~

My Tarot Reading-so reliable

The Knight of Pentacles card suggests that my power today lies in practicality. I plan ahead and consider my options to set priorities or define goals that serve my long-term purpose. My values lay in the potential that often remains unseen by others. I am cautious, steady, optimistic and reliable and have earned the new trust or position that empowers me. My asset is accepting responsibility.

Believe it or not, today i have a serious postmortem to myself, i apologize to all of them that i have made them up set because i broke my promises.

Anna, she is a friend of mine who already married and have 2 sons, i know her in a event call Splendors of Chinese Opera , she is a very caring person, she bake a lot of bread, bun and confectionery for us to enjoy, especially her Swiss's bread as her husband is from Swiss.

well, i wrote this in saturday night>

suddenly, felt regreted, for easily promise people, make me so stress for unable to complete the stuff and make my day so uneasy, sob sob

anna reply> Always remember to draw the line, the boundary, your limitation. The good thing is, that is your nature character, you are kind and helpful. Another good thing is now you know how to put yourself priority next time. Complete it and be happy that you have learn something out of this experience...remember, NEVER break your promises...even for small thing...

this is an enlightening for me to start everything you know, so i won't be so stressful and broke promises again

sorry and thank you everyone, hehe

Emotionally down

Family objection, argument and opposite opinion is my biggest obstacle to move forward. In additional, my cousin who grow with me who study with in the same school faced a serious accident. I felt, i'm useless i can't help my cousin in financial support for the medical fee. To my family i felt my existance is meaningless but they need me even though they always disagree whatever i do, i felt i'm a tool only, haiz. No wonder all sibling rather stay outside one by one la. But that all was happened last week and this week. Luckily i still have friend, they all like my savior even though they can't help much. For me, it sound like a very bad week instead of bad day. I told myself before, that i'm stronger than anyone else, i'll keep smilling no matter what happen. What i behave for this few week is totally negetive and i hope this will not happen again, so RICHARD aka RICH & HARD will survive no matter what condition, YEAH!